15 Things All Badass, Fearless Alpha-Women Do Differently From Other Types Of Women

Cheers to chasing our own dreams and making them happen! 😉

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There’s a quote by Laurel Thatcher Ulrich that states: “Well-behaved women seldom make history.” It’s a often posted on Pinterest boards and slapped onto cards with women in 1920s-fashion kicking up their heels in unison. But for me, this sentiment is more than encouragement to go on a girls trip and go wild; it’s a celebration of women who choose to be defined by their courage, bravery and decisions to go after the life they want to live instead of being confined by “appropriateness.” Call them bold, fearless, or powerful, these are women who light up a room with their magnetic energy. They intimidate the close-minded and inspire those who have long hungered for tangible proof that they, too, will serve themselves well by igniting their passions and relishing in their independence. I know a few of them very well and they have changed my…

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That Rough Piece

What if one day you realize that after years of running away, you don’t fit anywhere anymore? What if you’ve become a very odd piece of a puzzle? You’ve been cut out several times to fit different puzzles and still ended up too big, too small, too dull, too bright, or just plain wrong for puzzles you tried to fit into.

Should you keep looking? Keep moving? Keep running away? Or should you just force yourself into one puzzle? You can cut yourself more or try to spread yourself as far as possible to be big enough. Maybe nobody will notice that you don’t fit. Maybe you can make yourself believe that you are home.

You can settle. Or you can keep on fighting. Keep on changing. Bask in the beauty of every form and let go when it’s time to embrace another change. Keep looking forward to something better no matter how dark the times are because you have the light inside of you telling you that the end is not yet at this place. You can overcome the fear of being found out that you do not belong because deep inside of you, you are still yearning for a different home.

Embrace the roughness, the oddness, and the cuts that meet your piece because no matter how much it gets pressured, you know it never burns.

Persevere.

Because one day, that rough piece will be polished and it will finally find that puzzle it belongs to. Never odd, not an inch too small, not a color out of place, it will find it’s home among puzzle pieces that were waiting patiently, and eagerly, for that one piece.

Thinking Out Loud

My favorite lines:

And, darling, I will be loving you ’til we’re 70
And, baby, my heart could still fall as hard at 23

So honey now
Take me into your loving arms
Kiss me under the light of a thousand stars
Place your head on my beating heart
I’m thinking out loud
That maybe we found love right where we are

When my hair’s all but gone and my memory fades
And the crowds don’t remember my name
When my hands don’t play the strings the same way
I know you will still love me the same

Stranger

I call you world.
I call you star.
I call you night.
I call you all other names
except for yours.

I call you brave.
I call you mighty.
I call you FAITHFUL.
I always call you you.

Sometimes, you’re funny.
Sometimes, you’re grumpy.
But all the time, you’re you.

I call you world.
I call you night.
When I meet you, you’ll be you.
I’ll call you (name).

Things You Do When You Leave Home to Study in Another Country #2

2. You make a list. of places to visit and go back to. of people to visit and meet again.

Going to another country makes you meet a lot of people from that country. And more. It’s not like you’re the only one who have decided to leave home and find yourself somewhere else. There will be a lot more people like you who, with braveness and fear, decide to take the step to find out for themselves what lies out there. You meet them, get over the initial awkwardness, or maybe the predisposed stereotypes you may have taken from growing from your own country, and then you realize that you actually met a friend. A REAL Friend. And if you are lucky enough, you get to meet a lot of these kindred spirits in your new place. Kindred spirits that will continually show you new places, literally, or through their own stories of home.

Then, one day, some of them would have to go, to a new country, back to their home countries or just move far away. But you know what? You realize that you are willing to keep these relationships not just with technology but with a promise of seeing them again. You don’t know when but you end up making a statement that one day you’ll have to meet again. And those places you used to dream of going to because of popular tourist spots become places you’d like to visit because of the people you look forward to meeting there. There’s something about living in another country and meeting friends from all walks of life that opens you up into the things you truly value. And no matter how impossible it seems to go around the world and visit them all, you still make a list. You still make a plan.  And see, for now, how the future pans out.

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The List

Attend a future wedding in Nepal and India.

Visit two friends studying in Japan.

More reason to try to go to Brazil Olympics now that I know somebody from there.

Somebody is holding on my word to visit their beach house in Peru.

Go back to Trondheim, Norway.

Meet a friend from Kazakhstan who is studying in Poland.

Dance with somebody in Uruguay.

Have coffee with a friend in Costa Rica.

Meet a friend studying in Macau.

Take a photo with a friend and former roommate in Bahrain.

I told a friend that I’ll visit Mongolia.

Somebody is waiting for us to visit her in New Zealand.

There are a lot of people in the United States that I know but I shouldn’t forget to go around Texas.

Find my frisbee coach in Canada.

Have dinner in that expensive hotel in Singapore.

Let my dear cousin tour me around Bangkok.

Go back to Korea regularly to have a chat with friends.

Get an Irish Accent. (Kidding. but half meant. I hope I meet somebody from Ireland in the future)

Haha. Macedonia, maybe.

And surely, there’s a lot more to this list and there will be a lot more to come.

Things You Do When You Leave Home to Study in Another Country #1

  1. Download Messaging apps. A LOT of it. ALL OF IT.

 

…as if your family and friends are not on Facebook and are constantly on it. It’s scary to be, suddenly, the “foreigner”. Hey, that’s how you call people back home whom you think don’t actually belong. And now you’re IT. You’re the one who doesn’t belong and needs all these redundant programs to assure you that you can always talk to somebody familiar while you adjust to your new surroundings. This is helpful so you can talk to somebody while you are alone waiting somewhere or in the subway. Especially if you are in a country with another language. Or in a country where your physique makes you stand out like a sore thumb. It’s comforting, in a way. But later on, you learn to socialize, communicate with your broken new language or have them reach out to you. You gain new friends, ones worth keeping, too. If you don’t, then I tell you that you should. They might just end up to be on the other end of your messaging apps the next time you move into another country, comforting you in your, yet another, new world.

This one has got me through a lot of conversations from all over for the past 2 years. It dies on me now from time to time. But it’s like a lucky charm, a faithful companion on my first big step to discovering life alone in a new world.

 

And yeah, by the way, I have at least 12 social media apps on my phone including two Twitter apps. This number is increased by more copies on my iPod. But as much as these keep me in touch with the people I love back home, these apps have also allowed me to open conversations with new people. 🙂

No More Dead Horses

Has there ever been a time in your life when suddenly you felt liberated from something that has been bothering you for a long time? Or do you wish to be liberated from something right now and you are hoping to be free from it soon? Well, I think I am in both. Somehow, something that I have been carrying for a long time has been taken from me, not completely, not yet. But I think God has been slowly stripping me away of it, slowly taking that burden of a dead horse from my past, and unceasingly supporting me to go on everyday, showing me the beauty of the future without it. I still have bad dreams, literally. I find myself waking up early in the morning wondering how in the world do I still get to dream about the bad things no matter where I am. I think it would take more time to completely lose it in my dreams but what is good about now is it’s not in my reality anymore.

Time really has a way of bringing us to places and God definitely has bigger plans. I’ve always said that but evidently, my concept of “bigger” is still not big enough compared to what He has planned. Currently, I am at the end of my 3rd semester in Graduate School and looking back, a lot of things have changed from when I first left home. Moreover, the couple of years break from the corporate life is almost over and I am not sure if I am ready to go back. Leaving home and living in another country has redefined freedom for me. South Korea has opened a lot of doors for me that I have never imagined I would ever get to see in my life. Lastly, going away have shown me who, among everybody I know, are the ones who motivate me to come back home. They are the ones who, despite the distance, managed to keep in touch, managed to make me feel that wherever I am, I am still a part of their lives. I have never been the type of person who wants a million acquaintances, a handful of people who truly care has always been enough.

I’ll be going home in a few days and though I am not yet sure how the remaining months of the year would pan out, one thing I am surely praying for is that…. no more dead horses this time. 🙂

“I’m gonna walk a hundred miles,
I’m gonna whistle all the while,
If that’s what it takes to make me smile,
I’m gonna walk a hundred miles.”

– Mindy Gledhill

A Time for Everything

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There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens:

    a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
    a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
    a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
    a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
    a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
    a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
    a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.

What do workers gain from their toil? 10 I have seen the burden God has laid on the human race. 11 He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet[a] no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end. 12 I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. 13 That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil—this is the gift of God. 14 I know that everything God does will endure forever; nothing can be added to it and nothing taken from it. God does it so that people will fear him.

~Ecclesiastes 3, NIV